CompassCare – September 2020

When Childbearing is Divorced from Marriage…

As goes marriage, so goes society. Marriage is society’s prime institution, first in history and first in importance. Predating government, the union of a man and a woman has happened in all societies for all time. Marriage is the thread of society’s fabric. A marriage is a micro-society. When a man and a woman marry, a new family is born. And when a child arrives, the future of society is sealed.

Since marriage is the skeletal system of civilization, how it is engaged acts as a thermometer to the health of the body politic. Marriage rates1 in the U.S. have plummeted to 34% since 1990 and those who do marry push it off to later2 in life. Today,3 a minority of young adults 18-34 are married (30%), while just 40 years ago a strong majority were (nearly 60%). Sex is divorced from marriage and marriage from childbearing, with now 40% of all babies born to unmarried4 women and most young couples choosing to cohabit rather than tie the knot. Despite studies proving children born into single-parent homes do worse in school, are more prone to behavior problems, are six times as likely to be poor, and whose daughters are three times more likely to be unwed mothers themselves, marriage continues to diminish. But worse than setting up children for failure is the destruction of those children. For every 100 babies born in the U.S., 19 are aborted.

Yet, statistics can only tell us what has happened, not why it has happened. They confirm that society’s belief about the purpose of marriage shifted. Nothing underscores this changing view of marriage more than the Supreme Court’s 2015 ruling legalizing same-sex marriage (Obergefell v. Hodges). The Court’s majority insisted that the purpose of marriage is the well-being of the individuals who choose to marry. But Justice Alito, dissenting from the majority, pointed to the cultural pendulum swing saying, “This understanding of marriage which focuses almost entirely on the happiness of persons who choose to marry…is not the traditional one. For millennia, marriage was inextricably linked to the one thing that only an opposite-sex couple can do: procreate.”

Is Justice Alito’s take on marriage and childbearing biblically grounded? God through the prophet Malachi links faithfulness in marriage through childbearing to faithfulness to Him, saying: “Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth” (Mal. 2:15).

God made marriage the primary human relationship because it is key to man’s purpose to reflect His image: “Then God said, ‘Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness…’ God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them” (Gen. 1:26a, 27).

Mankind is to reflect God’s glory back to Him. Sin cut us off from God, blinding our eyes to our purpose, miring us in the mud of selfishness. Jesus, God in the flesh, came to heal us and set us on the right path again through the cross. Now, as disciples of Christ, we are charged with fulfilling that ancient goal of glory once again as Peter says: “Like the Holy One Who called you, be holy yourselves in all your behavior” (1 Pt. 1:15).

If man is made in God’s image and His relationship with the world is Creator and Sustainer of all life, then how does marriage factor in? Marriage stands apart from all other types of human interaction precisely because it carries the possibility of creating and sustaining new life. In fact, God directly links man’s image-bearing purpose to procreation saying, “And God blessed them; and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth, and subdue it…’” (Gen. 1:28a). As society dodders off the path of this ancient wisdom, we see in our behavior a reversal of those commands. Instead of subduing the earth, we subdue ourselves, letting the earth run wild.

The marital act is a unique picture of God demonstrating the power of a total giving of one to another with an openness to the life that may result. Divorcing the marital act from marriage or even to continually sterilize it within marriage fails to reflect the fullness of God’s image. Not only is the spouse in danger of becoming an object of pleasure, but the goal of future childlessness becomes a means to self-gratification. There are many reasons Christian couples give for not having more children: finances, loss of personal time, interference in their career or school plans, relationship pressures, and even the number of existing children. Should we be alarmed that these are exactly the same reasons women use for justifying their abortion?

Marriage and the intrinsic marital act reflect a good God, sacrificial and faithful. Godly marriage is hopeful believing that together with God, there is enough grace, enough strength, enough of everything needed to provide for the fruit self-sacrifice begets. There is no clearer picture of heaven on earth than a godly marriage. To the extent culture divorces marriage from childbearing, abortion will remain a tortuous reality. It is the Church that has the light of God’s purpose for civilization – not government, education, or medicine. The church alone can lead culture back to health with godly marriages courageously lived according to biblical beliefs. Future civilization hinges on a pro-family church.

Transforming fear into confidence,

Rev. James R. Harden, M.Div.
President/CEO

P.S. In these inhumane times, together let us deepen our commitment to that which truly lasts.

1 Erin Duffin, “Marriage rate in the United States from 1990 to 2018,” Statista.com, January 2, 2020, www.statista.com/statistics/195951/marriage-rate-in-the-united-states-since-1990/
2 U.S. Census Bureau, Decennial Censuses, 1890 to 1940, and Current Population Survey, Annual Social and Economic Supplements, 1947 to 2019, www.census.gov/content/dam/Census/library/visualizations/time-series/demo/families-and-households/ms-2.pdf
3 Benjamin Gurrentz, “ Living with an Unmarried Partner Now Common for Young Adults,” Census Bureau, November 15, 2018, www.census.gov/library/stories/2018/11/cohabitaiton-is-up-marriage-is-down-for-young-adults.html
4 Joyce Martin, “Births: Final Data for 2018,” National Vital Statistics Reports, November 27, 2019, www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr68/nvsr68_13-508.pdf

“I’m Not Getting Rid of Them…”

Jen’s life is filled with new pressures because of COVID-19. As she adjusts to life as a first-time mom while struggling financially, she discovers she is pregnant again. Sleepless nights ensue as Jen considered what to do about this new life within her. Finding CompassCare online, she called for an appointment.

In the exam room, Jen tearfully shared the overwhelming fear she is experiencing as a new mom. She admitted she would feel more confident not aborting if her boyfriend supported her. But due to his lack of commitment, she sees abortion as her only choice. Yet, even as Jen told CompassCare’s nurse that she feels she is bearing the weight of her decision alone she revealed, “I won’t abort a baby with a heartbeat!”

Because Jen is in the early days of her pregnancy, her ultrasound only exposed a tiny gestational sac with no discernable heartbeat. Her boyfriend, now in the room, seemed disengaged. When her nurse asked how she is feeling, Jen replied, “Killing my baby is hard.” She went on to explain that the baby is part of her and it is hard to even think of “getting rid of it.”

Jen allowed her nurse to pray for her. After prayer, Jen said, “God allows things to happen for a reason, but I just don’t know what to do.” She scheduled a return appointment for test results and another ultrasound to confirm viability.

A few days later, Jen’s nurse called to see how she is doing. Jen told her she is determined to abort because of how overwhelmed she feels. She appreciated the call and agreed to keep her follow-up appointment at CompassCare.

Jen came for her second appointment and received another ultrasound, her pregnancy had progressed to the point where her nurse could see, not one, but two healthy babies growing inside her! Feeling resolved now to carry her pregnancy to term and raise her children, Jen said, “I’m not getting rid of them! Besides I’ve always wanted twins.”

Her nurse shared the Gospel with her in that moment and Jen prayed to receive Christ. Jen told her nurse that with God’s help, she knows she can be a good mother to her twins.

Disclaimer: Names and details have been changed to protect patient confidentiality.

 

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Vision Tours are 75-minute educational events designed to give pro-life Christians an opportunity to understand how CompassCare reaches and serves women seriously considering abortion. You will have a chance to meet the leadership, hear firsthand accounts of women served and babies saved from a CompassCare nurse, and learn more about the mission to “erase the need for abortion by transforming women’s fear into confidence.” Light refreshments are provided and children of all ages are welcome to attend.

Guests can choose to attend the Vision Tours virtually or in-person.

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Tours occur monthly on the 2nd Thursday (7:00 PM – 8:15 PM) and 4th Saturday (9:30 AM – 10:45 AM)

Rochester

Tours occur monthly on the 1st Saturday (9:30 AM – 10:45 PM) and 3rd Thursday (7:00 PM – 8:15 PM)

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CompassCare – Walk for Life 2020

New York’s Attorney General declares abortion an essential service. CompassCare’s truly essential, life-saving services continue. Just in the last few days, 34 women seriously considering abortion received ethical and compassionate medical care at CompassCare.
This is why the largest pro-life event in NY, CompassCare’s Walk for Life, must go on. Due to Coronavirus concerns the in-person park event is pivoting to a live #WalkOn Webcast, Saturday, May 2 from 9:30-10:30 A.M.
CompassCare is expecting 7,000 pro-life Christians from across Western New York to participate in the #WalkOn Webcast. The webcast also will be broadcast live via radio, in Rochester (107.1 FM / 990 AM) and in Buffalo (99.5 FM / 970 AM).
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CompassCare March 2020

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CompassCare vs. Cuomo Lawsuit

⚖️New York Senate bill S660 (aka the Boss Bill) was signed into law by Governor Cuomo on Nov 8, 2019.

⚖️The Boss Bill targets the pro-life beliefs of Christian organizations, including churches, by making it illegal to hire or manage staff based on pro-life beliefs and behavior.

⚖️ Partnering with Alliance Defending Freedom, CompassCare filed a lawsuit on Nov 16.
⚖️ A federal judge was assigned to the case in Jan.
⚖️ NY’s Attorney General requested Judge to dismiss and CompassCare’s legal team responded on Feb 13.
⚖️ Now awaiting the Judge’s determination.
CompassCare in Buffalo
Goal: Cut abortions by 50% in 5 years.
Timeline:
🎯March ‘19 – CompassCare adopted Northtown and Southtowns Pregnancy Centers, and Buffalo Pregnancy Care Center.
🎯Hired and trained team to serve 25% of abortion-minded women in Buffalo.
🎯Oct ‘19 – Purchased office building large enough to handle 25% of the market.
🎯Results: Currently reaching 14% of all women looking for an abortion in Buffalo with over 100% increase in lives saved since April 2019.

You’re Invited

A Vision Tour is a 75-minute educational event designed to give pro-life Christians an opportunity to understand how CompassCare reaches and serves women seriously considering abortion. It helps attendees understand if CompassCare is a good way for them to express their pro-life convictions. You will have a chance to meet the leadership, hear firsthand accounts of women served and babies saved from a CompassCare nurse, and learn more about the mission to “erase the need for abortion by transforming women’s fear into confidence.” Light refreshments are provided and children of all ages are welcome to attend.

Buffalo

  • 2nd Thursday (7:00 PM – 8:15 PM) and 4th Saturday (9:30 AM – 10:45 AM) of each month
  • Each tour can accommodate up to 12 people
  • To reserve a spot, call (716) 800-2309 or email buffaloevents@compasscare.info

Rochester

  • 1st Saturday (9:30 AM – 10:45 PM) and 3rd Thursday (7:00 PM – 8:15 PM) of each month
  • Each tour can accommodate up to 20 people
  • To reserve a spot, call (585) 232-3894 or email rochesterevents@compasscare.info

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CompassCare – November 2019 (2)

Please Pray

Dear Pastors and Prayer Warriors,

New York Senate bill S660 (aka Boss Bill) was signed into law by Governor Cuomo on Friday, November 8. The bill makes it illegal for pro-life organizations to hire and manage employees based on pro-life beliefs.

Obeying this law would force CompassCare to violate its mission and beliefs. Therefore, CompassCare cannot in good conscience obey. We sue not because we want to but because it is needed to ensure pro-life Christians can continue expressing their convictions publicly and peaceably.

This Sunday would you consider asking God’s people to pray for CompassCare’s staff and legal team. Pray for 1) the enemy’s plans to be frustrated; 2) God’s favor, both in the legal court and the court of public opinion; 3) His wisdom, to know what to say, what to do, and the courage to do it; 4) success, so that CompassCare and other NY pro-life, pro-family organizations can continue working without unjust interference.

CompassCare – November 2019 (1)

Governor Cuomo Leaves CompassCare

No Choice But to Sue

Greetings!
New York Senate bill S660 (aka Boss Bill) was signed into law by Governor Cuomo on Friday, November 8. The bill makes it illegal for pro-life organizations to hire and manage employees based on pro-life beliefs. CompassCare has no other choice but to sue Governor Cuomo as this bill threatens the organization’s very existence. This law is a trifecta of constitutional violations, hindering freedom of religion, freedom of speech, and freedom of association. CompassCare is asking the courts to reverse this intolerant, coercive, and discriminatory law.
CompassCare’s legal team has been monitoring this bill since it was first passed back in January, along with the now infamous Reproductive Health Act. To be clear, obeying this law would force CompassCare to violate its mission and beliefs. CompassCare cannot in good conscience obey this law. We sue not because we want to but because it is needed to ensure pro-life Christians can continue expressing their convictions publicly and peaceably.
It is heartening to remember that Christians throughout history faced the coercive pressure of government and yet remained faithful to God’s calling.
“And when they had summoned them, they commanded them not to speak or teach at all in the name of Jesus. But Peter and John answered and said to them, ‘Whether it is right in the sight of God to give heed to you rather than to God, you be the judge; for we cannot stop speaking about what we have seen and heard.'” Acts 4:18-20.
Please pray for wisdom, guidance, and the resources necessary to ensure that Christians in NY can still express their pro-life convictions without penalty.

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Rev. James R. Harden, M.Div
President/CEO
CompassCare is working with the legal team at Alliance Defending Freedom, an alliance-building legal organization that advocates for the right of people to freely live out their faith.
They work to build a world whose laws affirm religious liberty both, publicly and privately, protect life, from conception to natural death, and promote the natural family, including marriage between one man and one woman.

Dig Deeper with CompassCare

There is a lot going on at CompassCare right now including:
  • Expanding operations into Buffalo
  • Increasing services in Rochester
  • Continuing public education initiatives
  • And now this lawsuit against Governor Cuomo

Expect more frequent communications in the next few weeks to keep you apprised of progress.

Please pray for wisdom, courage, stamina, and all the resources necessary to continue accomplishing the mission, while protecting your ability to express your pro-life convictions from unjust laws.